A gender relations in the most vulnerable

"There are no official statistics to explain a number of people living together in China. For the enjoyment of one of the young people feel living together is a paradise for those who suffer, it is hell. Only be sure is popular in the world cohabitation, sexual relations are the most vulnerable. "

 
"If it is like pop music, as any spread, all the fun by small changes in the public interest, so that more people can get lost in this relationship."

 
Irreversible trend of cohabitation
Famous philosopher Bertrand Russell in "Marriage and morality," a book about a man and a woman had sex to get married not just as a house buyer to move it to a genius to see their house, if inappropriate, how to do it ?

 
It is with this mentality, unmarried cohabitation from a disgusting thing to become an option for many young people before marriage. Them as many people declared war on the battlefield to the traditional marriage, claiming it will bring experience to the "convenience": older young unmarried cohabitation can better understand each other, life has become more economical; college students living together in order to solve the external demand, advance to find the feeling of home; divorced middle-aged, very cautious because of remarriage, so living together to test each other with mind; in rural areas, because the only recognized marriage ceremony, do not care about the legal registration, so a lot of people are also non-marital cohabitation ; there are ulterior motives who have spouses are still living together with others, only momentarily.

 
However, Professor Law said: "the universalization of cohabitation, marriage and ideas with the whole community have an important bearing loose. Particularly in the child is entering first marriage, their concept of marriage is more open, more free, no longer considered Marriage is a sacred contract, do not want to be shackled by marriage, marriage, fear of failure caused the injury, although the family backgrounds, but many of them going the same road: living together before marriage. "

 
"From a global point of view, the popular trend of cohabitation is irreversible, but a considerable number of people a clear understanding of it. From what they tell is trial marriage, what is the cohabitation can be seen."

 
Essential difference between cohabitation and trial marriages
Risk of cohabitation with the vast majority of those who are in favor of cohabitation. Yet many young people still think: "Cohabitation is a trial marriage, both understand each other's likes and dislikes, but also saves the cost of living, but also learned how to operate the marriage." According to the survey, most young people believe that living together before marriage is a good idea .
Professor Luo emphasized that cohabitation and trial marriages has essentially different: First of all, no cohabitation between the promise of marriage, are not the points, and trial marriages to those who are holding the ultimate common goal of marriage, as husband and wife will try to maintain as true relations between the two.

 
Second, because there is no subjective desire to pursue marriage, so once they have problems living together, but also increased the sense of loss, and even lead to violence. In recent years, children born out of wedlock law partner abuse and sexual harassment, constitute a special class of social problems. China Statistics show that the problem of violence among cohabiting couples are far more than domestic violence. The trial marriage are different, the pursuit of the goal of marriage can make their relationship more resilient.

 
In addition, the cohabitation between the two sides more attention to their own independence and personal interests. In the "living together" under the cloak of a two separate individuals. The trial marriage who has the desire to communicate with each other, they will match the extent of efforts to promote the two men, two for a more stable world.

 
Professor Luo asked: "so much different nature, but also how to learn from the cohabitation of marriage experience? Reality tells us that a person experienced in cohabitation, the more likely to choose cohabitation rather than marriage."

 
Poor cohabiting relationship satisfaction
In China, not as a system of common-law relationship, but since the last century since the late 80's, University of New Jersey, USA Rogers, two professors there, David and Barbara Snow Bo Peng D · White Hart, on the relationship between cohabitation a 10-year study.

 
Professor Luo said that their report reveals that while the form of marriage by cohabitation, cohabitation rather than the form of marriage without a divorce rate of 46%. The longer pre-marital couples living together, the more easy to think of divorce, their relationships are equally vulnerable. And the longer living together, the two sides to pursue more independent, more reluctant to be bound by marriage, so the greater the possibility of never getting married, cohabiting relationship breakdown rate than a higher rate of marriage breakdown.

 
"Cohabitation is so common, the media should bear some responsibility. Because today's television programs and movies over exaggerate the phenomenon of divorce, domestic violence and feelings of betrayal, and the lack of a description of life together, it will make more young people afraid of marriage, and thus choose cohabitation. "