First, each is able to talk to friends.
As a couple, the most basic should be friends, and should be a good friend or known to have been, unless you just purely physical sense of the family line-based husband and wife, or even the friend of the couple are lower than how to do it, even if the husband and wife will be forced to do can not be sustained.
Second, there are common values of life.
Like father, like friends should be in life and value the world has basically the same understanding of each other, at least the default values of the other's life, or how to make friends?
Friends like this, a couple should live together long term, of course, have to have common values of life. Husband and wife to pursue life goals in life and inconsistent view of things there are serious differences, marriage how to proceed?
Third, trust each other fully informed.
Interpersonal understanding of each other is the basic premise, but to want the couple to understand the course is the most basic to do. On the other side do not understand each other's family background, educational status, personality temperament, personality traits, habits, etc., these should be fully aware, at least a basic understanding. Far enough to understand, of course, in the awareness, if you can accept these things as you know, you have to fully trust each other, there is no trust, no communication, couples in particular.
Fourth, failing to communicate with each other easily.
Between people, of course there will be some problems and contradictions, of course, as husband and wife, but because every day together, friction is also greater potential for conflict. Contradiction is not terrible, terrible is not communicate with each other and let the conflict escalated to the development of out of hand, so do husband and wife is an important and fundamental elements that can easily communicate with each other in distress.
Fifth, there is another offer sacrifice.
Between husband and wife is a typical combination of rights and obligations, but get what you pay for things and not always in proportion, can not be completely equal. Husband and wife will always be a party to pay more, while the other may pay less, as a couple certainly can not mean and have a dedicated spirit of sacrifice. Who owe no marriage, no distinction or distinction, is also willing to make sacrifices to do couple to pay one of the basic elements.
VI can be tolerant with each other.
Everyone makes mistakes, man has his faults, between husband and wife because it is close contact, better find errors and shortcomings, so as a husband and wife should be a more tolerant heart, the body can correct and balanced view on the shortcomings of the other and mistakes, neither find fault nor unprincipled condoned. Small and tight tolerance, independent of the shortcomings and mistakes, help each other to correct big mistakes and shortcomings, the couple should progress together.
VII, interests to be able to basically compatible.
Rengeyouzhi, but the couple should remain basically the same inclination interesting aspects are interested in the views can be roughly the same point of view, only so that it can even go farther and farther in step and not discord. Congenial with the basic inclination to long life is not a pair of couples can not be happy.
Eight, with each other to firmly support each other.
Important point is different from the love of marriage is that marriage may face more pressures and problems in real life, marriage and more cumbersome or even boring, and thus the difficulties and problems are also much more. Whether the wife has her husband, whether it is life or work, will encounter some unexpected problems, it is not terrible, the key is to get each other's firm support. If you experience problems on a retreat, even friends do not like it, after the marriage can not continue.
Nine, each accept each other's families.
Many young lovers are often easy to overlook this point, that marriage is two people's private affairs, can not consider other, of course, is a naive romanticism. Marriage is a matter of two young men, but also both parents and two family affair, husband and wife apart from each other's love, but also must be able to accept each other's family, if you do not stand some of the other parents as a family, and they you can not do no say in things, then your future marriage life will be endless trouble.
Ten, a basic material economy as a foundation.
For love is not the same for married couples, because marriage is in addition to more mundane romantic vinegar in real life, not be based on certain material economy, marriage can not continue, so too with the two artists temperament may not suitable for couples, because they most likely are drowned in the artistic life of the romantic life and do not know, such as road and support the family.
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